Elder law encompasses many different categories of law. Most people think of Medicaid eligibility or estate planning, but it also includes durable powers of attorney that allow transfers of assets under the law. Along with that, it requires knowledge of HIPAA forms to allow family members to speak with your doctor, living wills so your chosen person can make medical decisions if you cannot, and living trusts that can be revocable or irrevocable. Other matters are Veterans Administration programs for care, social security and disability claims and the Connecticut Homecare Program for Elders. And when all is said and done, probate and inheritance tax filings may be necessary.

Since falling is the single biggest reason we see as the cause for needing nursing home care, here are some thoughts on how to reduce that risk. It’s important for those kids in their 50’s and 60’s to keep a watch on mom or dad whose balance, eyesight, and physical mobility may be declining. Just this week former Senator Joe Lieberman died, reportedly from a fall at home that resulted in head injuries. This is something that all of us should consider is a serious safety risk.

We all want to pass on our hard earned estate to our heirs. But, depending on the age and circumstances of the heirs, the safe and meaningful way to do it can vary greatly. Young children or young adults do not have the ability or experience to handle a large chunk of money suddenly placed in their lap. After years of seeing such situations, it is sad to say that relatives or friends may show up asking for some of that money. So protect your children who due to youthfulness may lose a good part of their inheritance.

Many families sooner or later face the problems and stress of giving care to a spouse or elder parent with some degree of dementia or physical decline. In each case the spouse or children, all feel the anxiety and stress of worrying about the safety and well being of the older loved ones. If you are anxious for your loved one, and feel overwhelmed by the unrelenting demands, that is a clear sign that not only is the family member not be safe for any number of reason, but outside help is needed.

If there is one recurring question that most everyone has, it is “why do we have to do probate?”
The answer for those who spend a few minutes to understand it, and plan accordingly, is fairly
simple. You don’t have to do probate if you don’t have probate assets. Non-probate assets are
any assets that automatically pass to your beneficiaries without the need for a court order. It’s
fairly simple, but you must be careful in how you own and title your assets.

Once again, in honor and memory of all those mothers suffering from dementia and needing care or those who passed away, this repeats the annual article on our feelings for them. These were my feelings many years ago when searching for a card for my mother. This is about a trip to the card display before Mother’s Day. As everyone knows, just any card won’t do for your mother. Not for the wonderful person who gave birth to you,
nurtured you, fed you, cured the pain on your bruised shin, and overall gave you the unconditional love and warmth and feeling of security that let you grow and bloom into the adult you have become.